You really do need to go in and change your notification settings.
Consider topics new when I haven’t viewed them yet
Automatically track topics I enter immediately
When I post in a topic, set that topic to Tracking
Notify when liked First time a post is liked and daily (if you need the self esteem boost.)
Finally, under Interface, set your default home page to New and set text size to Smaller
You’ll see the new topics immediately and you can click on the unread tab for replies on topics you’ve already entered.
I believe I see all the activity this way in a way that’s sensible. After a short period of adjustment , I found that the new software makes interacting on the forum more enjoyable and certainly search is much better. I like how if you try to start a new topic, it will search for similar topics, live, while you’re typing, preventing redundant posts.