Hi darlarosa,
I think I have an idea of which reviewer you have in mind–I saw you had commented on one of his reviews on IFDB. He’s been banned from this forum, and I suspect more than one person has “plonked” his reviews on IFDB so as not to see them anymore. This doesn’t answer your bigger questions–I don’t feel prepared to wade into those–but I thought it might be worth mentioning how some people have chosen to deal with this reviewer in particular.