I think it will depend a lot on what you are looking to get out of it, but I would suggest that if you truly wanted to understand how it works then it would be beneficial to concentrate on the tutorial, the manual, and any features within Emacs which offer built-in help.
Even very good online resources with valuable information will tend to steer you into making changes that replace a lot of the default behaviour. It is also worth bearing in mind that the author of an Emacs major-mode (how support for programming languages is implemented) is essentially free to decide how that mode should work and how it integrates with other Emacs features, so your experiences may be determined by how opinionated the author was and how they have chosen to provide functionality.
If you start with plain Emacs (not a distribution like Doom or Spacemacs) the default key bindings and some useful commands are available to print as a reference card:
https://www.gnu.org/software/emacs/refcards/pdf/refcard.pdf
I don’t mean to purposefully contradict any previous tips you’ve received, but I would avoid putting too much value on beginner tips. I think everyone will have learned it differently, potentially taking very different paths.
Just as counter examples of what was already mentioned (which you should also not place too much value on), it would be my view that:
- Starting with plain Emacs is fine
This means that the manual and tutorials are directly applicable to what you are using and you’ll get a better sense of how the core of it works.
In terms of being an IDE or not, I think this is fairly subjective. Emacs comes with an LSP client which integrates with the built-in Emacs features. You can also use alternative LSP clients if you want something that provides or connects with alternative features.
- Not using CUA mode is fine
If you just use the default keys you might not have any problems. I just started using the program (not knowing enough to enable CUA mode) and I don’t seem to have any problems when switching between applications - the Emacs kill-ring is not really like a traditional clipboard and I just seem to automatically treat it differently when I go to press the keys.
- Leaving the default UI elements on is fine
In particular, the menu-bar is context sensitive and will offer different items depending on the current modes which are enabled. These menu items are good way to discover features (and their key-bindings), particularly if you have never used the mode before and are just looking for an overview of features.
- Default key bindings are (mostly) fine
You may or may not want to move your Control key, but generally I’ve found the default key bindings to be pretty efficient. The available Vim emulation is good, but to operate over the entire program it needs to rebind keys across all modes, and that tends to leave small gaps where weirdness happens. There are also other modal editing options which are more Emacs friendly, if you were willing to give these a try, as well as options for creating your own leader keys.
(For context, I’ve been using Emacs for around 4 years. I didn’t know anything about it when I started and wrote a major-mode about 2 years in. I would consider myself an intermediate user of the editing features.)